一日三餐

早剩

剩下的半個牛油果可以放在清水裡，這樣裝著到第2天還是新鮮的

午餐

吃完，心情被療愈些了

夏日最後的玫瑰中文翻譯

這是夏日最後的玫瑰,留下獨自盛放，

她所有可愛的伴侶們早已消失了，

沒有和她同族的花，沒有和她鄰近的花蕾，

去襯托她的嫣紅，去和她一同嘆息

我不會離開你，你這孤單的一個，獨留在枝上，

由於那些可愛的已經睡著了，你也跟著她們去睡吧，

所以我輕柔的把你的葉子鋪在床上，

那裡有你花園裡的同伴，無氣味的躺著死去

當友誼腐朽時，我將很快跟隨她們，

在愛的光環裡，那些珍寶將會掉落，

當真心枯萎，所愛的飛去，

啊，誰將獨自繼續居住在這荒涼的世界裡，

獨自在這荒涼的世界裡。

In response to premarital sex  and illegitimate birth by  Prime Minister of England, isn't wedding a blessing of God？Isn't A child A careful plan by true love?

一日三餐

搬屋後好不容易才可以開始用厨房，昨晚吃了第一個像樣些的晚餐，菠菜黃魚麵，樓下就是街市，所以食材還算新鮮，中午的時候很想去買公仔麵，但是還是忍住了，用回已屯好的壽桃牌上海麵，過完冷河，味道一如既往的好，一不留神，下多了水，煮出四碗來，全部給吃光了。

Moving

Finnally moved to a new place and start living single again.  I am very thankful that everything fit so well. My Church friendors helped  a lot. The last time I live alone is over 10 years ago. Time just keep on flying.  Today is really exausting getting the appliances I need. I have stood and walked for over 5 hours, compared to all day sitting as my usual state.  And I resort to not taking coffee on Sunday now as much as possible.  After dinner, I was tempted to go to a new household store in the street corner. I gave up finnally for the sake of my tired body. Instead the time was spend on further unpacking. Really need to have wisdom in how to keep a miniamalist househkold.

childhood memory - neighbour

   Observatory Road 10/04/2020

I lived in Kimberley Street of Tsim Sha Tsui as a kid.  It has become well known as Korean Street now. We have a divorced woman and her adopted son  living upstairs as friend. She had offerred help in getting my cousin sister into primary school, which was the school her son was attending. It  was quite difficult for immigrant children to find  a school as  social service was not as convinient as present. My sister, my cousin brothers and I all attend this school later. She was a generous lady but quite hot tempered. She would bring her son to a park nearby to play after school.  My cousin sister and me sometimes join and have tea snacks with them in a  cafe at the Observatory Street opposite, which was a luxurious treat to us.    Her son was an outgoing talkative boy. Sometimes too naughty and got hard spanks from his mother. He  liked to get attetion and often make up funny jokes to amuse us. They left Hong Kong and went  to England at 1983.

現在的臺灣相思

畫畫有時

高中生好書推介

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Solve_It

Memorial of my Grandmother

Grandma was born in a small village in Mainland . According to my vague memory,   her family were middle class farmers. She had a tough childhood with ill treatment by stepmother.  She had to care her younger brother and do a lot of work in the farms. She was married to my grandfather at a young age with proper matchmaking. My grandfather was living in a nearby village and was a handsome person. He studied Chinese Medicine by himself during leisure time and had collected some effective folk prescription. Unfortunately his writings were little and I had only a glimpse of it. The papers were quite worn out last time when I saw them which should date back to over 20 years ago.

After marriage, World War II broke out. My grandmother went to Macau and do some jobs. She later join my grandfather in Vietnam. She had talked about the hardship a few times. But her speech were very brief and I did not have much recollection. Under her help, my grandfather opened a herbal medicine shop in Vietnam. The shop prospered.

She gave birth to 8 kids. Another few passed away at a small age. This fact was frequently mentioned by her though as a kid I did not have much compassion for her. Of course, she got over the emotions very quickly so that in my memory those were not so bitter things. She was a quiet lady and love handiwork. I got a green woollen pullover from her when I was a kid. She was in Vietnam at that time preparing for departure to Hong Kong due to political turmoil.  It was very tightly knit as her finger grip was powerful. It lasted many years.

She passed away due to heart attack in Australia while preparing meal for my Aunties. I am thankful that I have a gentle, quiet, hardworking and optismistic grandmother.

困境出路一希望有這種煩惱的人都得到解脫

裴宇晶博士九型人格​南京大学 管理学博士

四号和九号都敏感于被批评，喜欢做梦和幻想，都容易准确感应他人的心灵，喜欢艺术等，沉醉在自己的世界里，拖延行动及麻醉自我。不同的是，四号一直寻找自己是谁，渴望强烈的自我存在感，九号则回避寻找自我，在忘记自我中寻求平静。四号倾向于缺失的美带来的强烈震撼，九号则喜欢完整画面。我将从情感和职场两个方面回答你的问题：

第一部分 四号和九号的情感关系

在情感关系中，如果四号和九号是恋人或者夫妻，他们会有很多差异：四号喜欢跌宕起伏、激烈的、强烈回应的关系，而九号倾向于平淡、平和、回应较弱。 四号想要在情感上获得一种真实感和永恒感，而九号则希望对方的活力、激情带动自己，有一种能量的依赖和支撑。很多四号选择九号是因为九号的温和态度、评判较少，近乎无条件的包容，九号总是尽量避免冲突，觉得没有必要去改变自己的伴侣——“你怎样都可以……”这是四号的安全港弯，让四号终于可以肆无忌惮地“做自己”。九号的这种态度让四号不必再担心因为暴露缺陷而被抛弃，四号的自信心会大幅提升。

然而，九号也渴望四号以“无条件的接受我”作为回报，可惜四号对他人的期待和要求实在太多了，四号总喜欢说“我可以爱你，只要......”或者“除非你做出改变，否则我无法完全地爱你。”九号瞧不起这种态度，他们认为爱是无条件的。对方都讨厌被批评，也都会因为自己的命运而抱怨他人。四号总是看到伴侣身上缺少了什么，这让九号觉得吹毛求疵、被否定和攻击。

另一个重要冲突是，九号容易能量很低、缺乏活力和足够的回应，而四号渴望被爱唤醒，需要一种强烈、强度的表达和回应，九号宁愿埋头大睡，也不愿表达出真挚的爱意，九号的漠视会让四号抓狂，失望、失落、抱怨，用各种自怜、作的手段都无法换来九号的回应，在无数次期望落空后，变得脾气暴躁、蛮不讲理。如果一旦关系陷入僵局，九号往往选择作壁上观，无动于衷，把自己的空间与四号分开，或者忙碌于自己的事情，或者在精神上消失。四号会感到自己被忽视、被抛弃了，九号可能会说：“我什么都没做，我没有离开你，我明明在这里，怎么能说我忽视了你呢？”觉得自己被抛弃的4号会进行报复。受伤的四号的言语非常尖锐：“就是你让我受到了伤害。”四号会用最恶毒的语言来攻击对方，以挽回自己的颜面，这种挑畔行为可能会唤醒沉睡的9号。当真实的情感出现时，必须要做一些事情。当你的伴侣在用行动攻击你时，你不可能还继续睡大觉。

不过九号会发现，不管自己的表现如何，四号对他们的态度都是忽冷忽热的，这种又推又拉的方式会让九号认为“既然没有作用，为什么还要改变？既然我的努力根本不被重视，为什么还要去尝试呢？”因此九号常常会发展一些特别的个人兴趣，比如钓鱼，借此让自己获得单独的空间。他们也通过自己的兴趣来拉远与四号的距离，让四号重新对他们产生关注。九号应该看到在四号进攻性的行为背后还有积极的意图。尽管被人叫醒看上去像是一种批评，但四号的目的是为了增进双方的感情。这又是一对只要能发现个人的真实意图就能获益的夫妻。九号会对他人特别耐心，而四号会被有主见的伴侣所吸引。

第二部分 四号和九号的职场关系

在职场中，四号和九号都容易退缩，体谅他人，施行"仁政"，但他们的工作方式差别太大，四号是心区人，往往会看到局部、碎片化的“重点”，九号喜欢看整体，从宏观到微观层面的所有的框架、路径、细节，所以对四号的对一些碎片化的东西的强调不以为然，搁置不理，导致四号情绪爆发，“为什么颜色还没换？我说的你没听到么？”九号更是退避三舍，但这就更激怒四号。

九号和四号容易在整体愿景上取得共识，但不容易在工作方法上取得共识，九号喜欢按部就班，稳定的，平衡的，可操作的流程和步骤，四号却喜欢突发奇想，散乱随性，情绪激动，抓住一点不顾其余，这让九号措手不及，觉得打乱了自己的稳定计划，一旦九号没有反应，没有行动，阳奉阴违，四号对此非常敏感，就会受伤甚至跳起来激烈指责，九号也就一言不发，敷衍了事。

如果四号是领导者，九号常常会困惑对方的情绪波动和想法的变来变去，九号希望一切是可以预测的，按部就班的，可以按确定流程做事，有清晰的步骤、计划和目标，而四号领导者往往很容易在变化多端的创意中让九号觉得迷失方向。此外，四号领导的挑剔会让九号人觉得自己被孤立了。

如果九号作为领导者，九号在员工眼中就像一个难解的谜，因为他们的态度总是模棱两可，既支持，又反对。这种明显的矛盾性让四号觉得自己和特殊地位受到威胁，害怕遭到当众侮辱。如果九号能对四号表示出主动欢迎的态度，让四号感觉自己是九号领导的“自己人”，双方的关系就能好得多。四号需要某种个人化的特殊的关系，而九号领导很难满足这一点。

同属于退缩型的类型，四号和九号都只有获得彼此特别的关注，才会让他们更加主动。他们需要彼此鼓励和关注，就像期待对方如何对自己一样，在最佳状态下，四号和九号的结合很可能会在九型人格的三号性格点相遇，这样的结合让这对搭挡的工作效率极其出色。四号会对工作保持全情感投入的态度，并感照所有人都用同样的态度对待工作，他们还会鼓励九号表现也实干者的特征。九号会融入到快速的工作节奏中，并对充满活力的工作环境感到兴奋。

职场中四号和九号的典型冲突还在于：四号在工作中很容易焦虑，喜欢收到及时反馈，九号往往自己没有消化完就完全没反馈，或者反馈非常滞后，让四号更疑神疑鬼，备受伤害，引发情绪。他们需要彼此理解，四号要学会从点到面，看到大局，尊重九号的常规流程，不要变来变去，更不要对九号声色俱厉；九号也要尊重四号的情绪，了解四号情绪多来自自己的想法不被重视和不被告知信息，九号不要抗拒中沉默，多表达理解，及时反馈。最终，这两个神人组性格一定会携手共同创造美好而远大的愿景。

编辑于 2017-06-14路

cutting skill

I done my favourite dish shredded potato again yesterday. I got a shredding plate fron Taobao and use it for making potato shred in lighting speed , about 2 min and one potato would be fully shred. Few weeks ago I went to a restauramt in Humphrey's Road at Tsim Sha Tsui and ordered the dish,   I must admit the taste is way much better that my own production. The shred is slightly thicker and the crunch is crispier. I resort to cutting the potato using knife this time. It takes less than 10 minutes actually. And the taste is nearer to the restaurant. Thankfully the cutting plate is now stored in a less convinient place so I would not reach it as easily as before. So the total time spend is equivalent either using knife or the shredding plate. I guess this is a way to push me to improve my cutting skill.